Healing is an ongoing journey.
Each of us can choose how much time and energy we want to give to improving and changing ourselves. The more time we give to our healing, the more effective the healing will be. It is as simple as that.
To optimise your healing, here are five key areas you should try and work on every day:
Below, you’ll find a brief overview of each focus area.
Focus area #1: Connecting with your body through movement
You can only start the really core work of healing from trauma when you know what feeling safe and being in your body truly means. In other words, you will start to feel safer when you feel in touch with your body.
Movement not only helps us to connect to the body, but it also helps us to regulate our emotions. With this in mind, try to do some form of exercise or movement every day. Even five minutes will make a difference. You’ll find a number of suggestions on ways to move your body in Heal For Life.
Focus area #2: Connecting with others
Connection with others can be hard because, for many survivors, isolation feels safe. The brain knows it is in control and that there will be no danger. However, isolation generally means minimal healing.
Consider what small first steps you might take each day to break down the barriers to free yourself from isolation. This might include making the effort to talk to people in your community or making a phone call to someone.
Once you’ve achieved some of these smaller steps, consider joining a local club, volunteering, or getting involved in an organisation for survivors. One of the great benefits of the Heal For Life healing program is that it offers participants the chance to make connections with others.
Focus area #3: Integration of the brain
Integration is the key to good mental health. When we are more integrated, we will be able to observe how we are feeling in our adult ego state. This will help us to live mindfully.
The beginning of integration is naming what we are feeling. Saying how we are feeling engages both parts of the brain – this is why it’s essential. Other steps include:
- Practicing mindfulness
- Moving opposite ways with your body
- Learning to juggle
To learn more about these and other steps, check out Heal For Life and our previous blog post, How To Treat PTSD: Transform Your Healing by Learning How to De-Trigger.
Focus area #4: Fostering self-love
At Heal For Life, we believe the key objective of healing is to fully love ourselves. Powerlessness leads to lack of self-worth, which is equal to lack of self-love.
The question is: What can you do to help yourself love yourself?
Self-love is putting yourself and your needs first, as only then can we effectively meet others’ needs. Putting all of our energy into our children, for instance, is not self-loving and can lead to disaster as the children will eventually grow up and want to lead their own lives.
There are lots of ways to foster self-love, including:
- Seeing the positives about yourself
- Dealing with unhelpful and negative thoughts
- Learning not to take others’ behaviour towards you personally
These techniques are discussed in detail in Heal For Life and in a previous blog post – 6 Key Tips to Help You Live in Love, Not Fear .
Focus area #5: Tapping into your spirituality
Spirituality can be defined as exploring the meaning of life. It encourages you to ask yourself: ‘What am I here to do?’ Being able to answer this question can give you a sense of peace and purpose.
To explore your own spirituality, you might consider looking at religious and spiritual images online, and see what you respond to and what you feel negative towards. Look at what was imposed on you as a child, and explore whether those are your own beliefs and truths.
In connecting with our spirituality, we usually come to count our blessings. An essential part of growing our sense of purpose is to recognise what we are grateful for in life.
As a part of our daily life, gratitude is very rewarding. It can help keep negative thoughts at bay and allow us to move forward.
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Heal For Life, by Liz Mullinar
How to Heal Yourself from the Pain of Childhood Trauma and Abuse
This practical guidebook for survivors of childhood trauma or abuse, presents the Heal For Life model of trauma-informed self healing that has already empowered thousands of survivors to find inner peace and hope for a brighter future. This book is highly recommended by survivors and mental health professionals alike.